parenting . . mostly abortion.

This week we talked a lot about parenting and the different trends that have become normal, including one in particular that is very tough for me to speak about because it is such a touchy topic and I am so passionate about it, abortion.

Now we will get to abortion rather quickly but lets start with the current parenting trends.
 *delay in having children
 *Fewer or no children over all
 *Nannies/day care/someone else taking care of the kids
 *More children born out of wedlock
 *abortion
The delay in children often comes from getting married later and their are many reasons people often don't have children but many of those come up when we talk about abortion.
Nannies etc. come from woman going into the work force and being so busy now a days. That or people just don't want to raise their kids but wanna have the fun part? possibley.
We all know how children are born out of wedlock. Compared to our grandparents and earlier there is a decline in morals and its ok to sleep around a bit before getting married, if ever. Not judging at all, its your choice, but it doesn't fit with the things I believe.

And now to the tough one. Did you know that abortion often causes depression, substance abuse, and all those things that go along with those? it does. That little baby inside of you is a part of you for a while. You created it and your connected there for not only does it hurt that little childs soul it hurts the mothers spirit as well.

From what I understand, and there may be different reasons too but from what I know woman get abortions becasue
-they don't want to get close to the baby then have to give it up
-they don't want the physical changes having a child brings to her body
-so the baby doesn't have to live through this world (a kind of saving the baby by killing it)
-The mother was raped, dying, would die if she went through child birth etc.
-The mother doesn't want people to know
-The mother and father don't think they are ready for children yet (they can always have kids later right? not always . . . )
-The mother of the mother wants her to get an abortion.

The statistic is in 1950 woman who got pregnant before marriage 50% would get married, 49% would give the baby up for adoption and 1% would abort the baby. In the year 2000 50% get married 49% have an abortion, and only 1% give that baby up for adoption.

This is very sad to me. . . I may be young but I have been through a lot and witnessed plenty. Babys are a blessing. They are not the sin, a consequence or the problem. Pro choice activists say that it should be the woman's choice what she does, after all its her body. No. Her choice was to have sex. The woman knows she could get pregnant or get STDs so when she chooses to have sex she is accepting that these things might happen. That is her choice because the baby has no choice in any of it.
They only time it would be expectable to abort a baby, in my opinion is when the circumstance is rape. In rape the mother was not having sex willingly, it was not her choice, she was not willing to deal with the consequences and it was not what she wanted. It is also quite traumatic. though I find it expectable there is still the opportunity to have the baby and give it up to adoption. It wasn't the baby's fault that the mother was raped either . . .

I understand that there are some that are not ready to have children in their lives yet but consider that you may never be able to get pregnant again. There was a couple that came to my teacher and they were upset. They had gotten pregnant before they were married and in college. They both weren't ready for a baby at that time but the wife would have been ok having the baby. The husband, so busy with school, convinced her to abort the baby. 20 something years later they were married and ready to bring a child into the world. They hadn't been able to get pregnant except for that one little child they had aborted so many years ago. They then regreted what they had done.
Consider that even if you can their are couples out their yearning for the joy a baby brings to the family but can not have one.
I have a very good friend who could not have children. She wanted a child so badly. She would take the girls from church under her wing because its the closest thing she had to children of her own. It was so hard for her that she couldn't have kids. but adoption can be expensive and take a very long time. There are plenty of familys our their that would love to take in the children and take good care of them, they know that babys are blessings. Blessings they themselves can not create.

The last thing is what if someday you do have kids? what if you tell them or they find out that you once had an abortion? Those children will most likely wonder if you had thought about aborting them. Why were they so special? why wasn't it them? they begin to devalue their life because it seems as though it was so easy for the first child to be terminated. They realize it could have been them. What if it could have been you?