Divorce, remarriage, and aging

Well the semester is coming to an end so here we go. Divorce! bleh.
Did you know woman are more likely to ask for a divorce then men? Generally in the heat of the moment or when they are already emotional. Some men don't even realize anything is wrong. After about 2 years most men have already remarried, much to the ex wifes dismay. Normally about 2 years after the divorce 70% of people realize they could have and should have saved their marriage. They all kind of regret it. There is a chance the woman want to get back with her ex husband but that's often not possible since he is generally remarried.
The most common reasons people give for divorce are finances, they fall out of love, they have problems communicating, and every once in a while infidelity.
for many people the problem is that they don't know how to make decisions together. and for many its actually a matter of perception. What they see is happening even if that isn't really whats happening. when it comes to trying to convey how your feeling the best way is to not blame or get angry because that just makes people defensive. If you can convey what your feeling without blaming it creates compassion.

Remarriage. These familys can be difficult when there is children because you cant just expect the children to give up what they know and many hope someday their parents will get back together so it may take them a while to be ok with a blended family like that. yuuuppp most of this in class was a scenario about a girl whos father died when she was 15. Her and her mother got unnaturally close so when she married a young man who wanted to start a family of their own the mother kept over stepping boundaries that should not be crossed. So the husband began drinking to drown his sarrows and pain, the wife divorced him, attempted to turn the kids against him. Eventually he got remarried and him and his new wife wanted to try to have the family the guy had always wanted but because of the childrens mother and their hope that their family would become one again it didn't go as planned. The new wife then wanted a child of their own but the husband just wanted to focus on the kids he already had. This caused a whole new set of problems. All while the ex wife was just hurting. that's pretty much all we discussed

Now aging! there aren't a lot of study's on older couples because the transitions are less defined.
Adolescence is between the time your body is sexually mature enough to reproduce and the time when your economically mature. Once the last adolescent has left the house the couple become empty nesters. Some empty nesters say that its hard at first but is a second chance at feeling like newlyweds. They now have the freedom to go where they want and the finances to do what they want because they no longer have anyone else to take care of each other. Some couples love this, its another time to rediscover each other and why they fell in love. Some couples it drives insane and sometimes even to divorce because they don't know what to do with themselves anymore.
Its especially hard for couples who never have children because their lives are pretty much the same the entire marriage and they miss out on many experiences. When you do have children though you hope they have kids and give you grandkids. When becoming a grandparent one of the hardest things to do is find the boundaries between parent and grandparent because if your children are able, you really need to let them raise their own kids and make their own mistakes. But some parents are not able. 11% of grandparents in the US become a parental figure to their grandchildren. Many find themselves wiser, more relaxed, and more involved then when they were parents to their own children because they now have experience.